Dear Reader
I recently had a realisation about self-neglect: it doesn't always look like burnout. Sometimes it looks like "good enough".
For me, it was one simple question: which part of me have I been neglecting? My first instinct was to say none, I'd made real progress. But when I looked honestly, I saw the gaps. I should be eating better, moving more. I was agitated too easily, decompressing less than I needed. And there was one practice, monthly somatic breathwork, I'd promised myself and hadn't touched since February.
None of these were dramatic, which made them easy to miss. I was running on the parts of myself I'd already mastered, while the newer, tenderer parts went unattended 🕯️
So I made one small commitment: breathwork, the first week of every month. Not because it would fix everything, but because it was what I needed.
What I didn't do?
Berate myself about it.
When we've made real progress, it's easy to fall back into self-judgment about what's still unfinished. True elegance however involves acknowledging how far you've come, without diminishing what's still left to heal.
Your action for today: name, out loud or on paper, one part of yourself that you've been quietly neglecting. Don't wonder about how to fix it. Just name it.
A refined life isn't about doing everything or having more, it's about the mindful choice to keep circling back to yourself, especially to the parts where you've gone quiet.
I built my coaching practice, 25 years ago, on this exact belief: life gets easier once it's aligned with what you value, not what you were trained to perform.
That's the philosophy that I've built "The Chosen Pace™" to hold. It's my new free Skool community for high-achieving women, 40+, redesigning their definitions of ambition & success, through wellness, burnout recovery, and intentional living.
I soft-launched it three weeks ago, and we are already #1 on Skool for Mindful Living, #5 for Women's Wellness and #8 for Burnout Recovery.
So if you're a woman who's done all the right things and still feels disconnected from herself. If you're ready for support without shrinking to receive it...
I'd love to welcome you.
Join The Chosen Pace™, free, right here: https://www.skool.com/the-chosen-pace-6734/about
Best Wishes,
Sarina
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